For many years, we have been interested in finding out what it's like for siblings growing up in a family where there is a child with special needs.
Our method was simple. We consulted the experts - the siblings. They spoke and we listened.
We learned that the relationships with their brothers and sisters was complicated and often confusing. We learned that finding ways to describe their brothers and sisters is important. We learned that it helps to know others feel the same way and that talking about these feelings makes them feel less alone.
And we learned that even the hard questions deserve to be asked.
Listening to the siblings' voice is a way to understand.